Its your problem not MiNE!!

During my foundation years, I’ve learnt a lot and made frens with a bunch of girls that I know our frenship is meant for a life time. The same goes to the lessons.

There was once I was elected by the Economics teacher to take part in a quiz or something which was held aft schooling hours. Due to transportation problem, I suggested to her to elect another student (aft all, there’re others who r better than me, and I still hv no idea why on earth she sent me). Guess what’s the remark> hey! That’s your problem not my problem! Gosh! I was truly puzzled by this although its indeed how she was suppose to react, aft all, its Madame LAB. It made me felt a sense of guilt at that moment and I knew I will hv 2 take the given opportunity. Yet, I still can’t see the lesson behind all this.

Years later, while hving a lazy afternoon chat, babe told me that our choices of men will shrink due to the fact that asian man in general don’t quite accept the fact that their partner has a higher degree as compared to them. And my impromptu remark was> hey! Its their problem, not mine! And it strikes me that, well, there u go…that’s what LAB wanted me 2 learn.

As a woman and as a person, we’ve always taken responsibility of others’ burden although we did nothing 2 make it happen. We felt its our problem and indeed our fault which contributes 2 the burden. Yet, it’s not!

Just like Madame LAB, giving me the opportunity doesn’t mean she has to solve my transportation problem. And it’s up to me to decide. If I appreciate the chance, I’ll solve my problem and make it happen rather than using it as an excuse and expect others to take responsibility of it.

The same goes to relationship. I do agree that not many guys in general have the confidence of dating another gal who has higher education as compared 2 themselves. Yet, they r the ones who have 2 boost up their confidence and change a little of their distorted mindset. Aft all, I thought if u love a person, u’ll have 2 appreciate and cherish who they really are rather than what made them today. If hving a higher degree will make yr self-esteem goes low, then I think anything can make this person feel the lack of self-confidence. And 2 be fair, he loves his self-esteem more than he loves u. blaming another person to take charge of your OWN problem is indeed irresponsible!